parent coaching & business consultation
Parenting. It sometimes feels like we are living in a whole new world. Of course some things remain the same. Parents have always had to learn to guide children who may be drastically different than them, and who follow paths different than the ones parents might hope for them. But some things seem so different. There has been an enormous increase in the number of parents who have a child sit down with them to state that they are attracted to the same sex, are gender dysphoric, gay, bisexual, nonbinary, trans or queer - to name a few. And many are struggling to respond. Especially for parents whose theological convictions are in conflict with an outright affirmation of these identities, this part of the parenting journey can be especially challenging. These parents often feel they must choose between two extremes...either fully affirm and accept everything about their child, or set up firm boundaries in their relationships to communicate their lack of acceptance of their child's identity or experience. We believe there is a another way, where parents and children relate with integrity and honesty, finding ways to continue on together even across areas of vast disagreement. This does not require giving up deeply held beliefs. If you would like help navigating a relationship with an LGBTQ+ child, we can provide support and guidance.
Many Christian organizations -- churches, colleges and universities, camps and other parachurch organizations -- are finding they are faced with a new task for which they do not feel well-equipped. As a growing number of individuals identify somewhere on the LGBTQ+ spectrum (roughly one in ten Millennials and two in ten GenZs, according to a 2021 Gallup poll), Christians are being forced to think through their theological positions, as well as the ways in which they will embrace and disciple a population which views sexuality and gender much more broadly than ever before. If you are an organization that continues to embrace the historic Christian sexual ethic and the intentional goodness inherent in God's creation of male and female, but also wants to think through your policies, your language, your relationships, and the ways in which you will live in community with LGBTQ+ individuals, couples and families, we can help. Upon review, many organizations discover that they can drastically improve the ways in which they speak, relate, serve, support and love, even as they hold firmly to their theological convictions. We have resources to help your organization begin this review and decision-making process, building upon your own statement of faith and biblical beliefs.
Walk with them.
We put it in our name because it is integral to our mission.
It's a posture where no child is abandoned.
And where anyone earnestly seeking a relationship with God through Christ can find a place to be welcomed and discipled.
We believe it's important for followers of Jesus to put some effort into trying to get this right.
Multiple studies show that the responses of families and church communities toward those who are same-sex attracted, gender dysphoric, or who identify as part of the LGBTQ+ community, have a significant impact on mental health and even risk of suicide.
Studies also show that, currently, about 70% of young people stop attending church after high school.
One of the reasons frequently cited is the belief that the church has done a poor job of loving the LGBTQ+ community.
What we BELIEVE is extraordinarily important. Life-changing really.
But how we INTERACT with others is also important. And that can be life-changing as well -- for good or for ill.
Our goal is to help you live out your biblical convictions related to sexuality and gender in real-life settings, not forsaking your beliefs, but also not forsaking other important Christian virtues like gentleness and respect (1 Peter 3:15), patience, and bearing with one another in love (Ephesians 4:2).
We will walk with you, so that you are better equipped to walk with others.
Edee Schulze, Ph.D
Vice President for Student Life
Westmont College, Santa Barbara, CA
'Walk With Them' has emerged at such an important time. Kelly and Cheryl are both seasoned, Christ-centered shepherds who have a proven track record of serving individuals, families and organizations with grace, truth and wisdom. Christian parents and organizations are facing high stakes conversations and decisions with people they love who are navigating gender and sexual identity development. Kelly and Cheryl can provide the wisdom and guidance needed for the journeys of families, friends and leaders who desire to live with integrity according to their beliefs while effectively caring for those they love and lead. I have known and worked alongside both Kelly and Cheryl for decades. 'Walk With Them' has my highest recommendation and endorsement because I know Kelly and Cheryl's expertise, character and maturity in the faith.